Helping A Parent Or Spouse With Alzheimer’s

Alzheimer’s disease is the most common type of dementia and not only does it afflict more than 25 million people around the world, family members such as a spouse or child are often faced with the task of caring for an individual who eventually might not even remember them and also may be aggressive and angry due to the effects of dementia.

Early-stage Alzheimer’s disease often has few symptoms, if any, and it’s not until you notice memory loss or perhaps changes in personality, that family members begin to suggest that person be screened. Often this is met with hostility, and many people resist seeking a medical opinion out of the great fear of hearing the diagnosis. While it’s difficult to blame anyone for feeling that way, there are some treatments that can slow progression if the disease is diagnosed fairly early. Even so, people often become very angry or very depressed once they receive this news, and frequently it’s loved ones who are on the receiving end of the anger.

There are many ways to lessen the anxiety and stress both for your loved one and for you as the caregiver. Keep in mind that the person with dementia is highly susceptible to stress so keep them away from crowds and loud noises, as this can be upsetting. Create a soothing environment in the home and use soothing, but confident tones. If a person senses that you are scared, this will increase their anxiety. Remove excess clutter from the home and make life as simple as possible. This makes life easier for your parent as well as for you.

When people lose their memory, they ask a lot of questions or become confused about the year or the people in their life that are still alive. Rather than argue with them and insist that “Cousin Sally passed away years ago,” simply ask them about the person in question. What are they like? What do you like to do together? It doesn’t help to argue. When they ask where they are and what they are doing there, simply respond in a calm way that they are very safe and loved and then change the subject to provide them something cheerful to focus on, such as telling them that you have a cookie and milk for them or that you are going to read to them.

In many cases, dementia has progressed to a point where providing care is extremely difficult and stressful. In addition, many people simply cannot accommodate a parent safely in their home. At this point, you probably need to find a good eldercare facility for your parent or spouse. Many facilities specialize in helping people with memory issues and are trained to deal with all aspects of Alzheimer’s. Finding a facility can be tricky, so consider talking to the staff at to find out about your options.

The staff at can help you find a suitable assisted living facility, a nursing home, a board & care facility or perhaps an in-home caregiver. They will look for facilities that have staff trained specifically to help residents with memory problems, such as Alzheimer’s disease. Skilled nursing facilities, also called nursing homes, are the most affordable option as some of the cost may be covered by Medi-Cal. Assisted living homes or a board & care home might be an option for those with a larger budget.

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